En este articulo
- Why talking to yourself has been misunderstood
• How inner guidance differs from ego and conditioning
• Asking the right questions to access inner wisdom
• Why external rules often conflict with inner truth
• Reconnecting with your higher self, one choice at a time
We have all heard it: when you talk to yourself, it means you are crazy, or at least going crazy. That may be one of the most harmful pieces of programming on this planet. And if I were a conspiracy theorist, which, okay, sometimes I am, I would say that this directive was intentional.
Why? Because not listening to ourselves is akin to ignoring the guidance of our higher self, or the guidance of God, if you prefer that language. Talking to ourselves is how we get answers. Just as we talk to other people and ask questions to receive answers from the external world, if we want answers about our inner being, our inner peace, and our inner happiness, we must talk to ourselves. That is where our answers lie.
What's Really Crazy
What is really crazy is believing that talking to yourself is crazy. It is not. It is often the solution to our problems, our challenges, our doubts, and our fears.
And why would the “powers that be” not want you talking to yourself? Why would they want you to only draw within the lines and not let your creativity flow? Because they want their answers to be the ones you follow. Whether we are talking about parents, teachers, the church, or those who want to be in charge, they are often looking for obedient followers, not liberated self-thinkers.
Now, of course, that is a gross generalization. Not everyone wants you to be an obedient peon. But very often, the people who write the rules are the ones who want obedience, not inner sovereignty. They want us doing as they say, not as our own inner guidance prompts us. And oftentimes, our inner voice will not be in sync with that outer voice, the one that says be quiet, do as I say (not as I do), and insists this is the only acceptable way.
We have an inner guidance system, a GPS if you like, that can guide us every step of the way. And that guidance is unique to you. It is not meant for anyone else. Just for you. But no GPS will work if you are not in touch with it, if you do not listen to it, and if you do not first give it instructions about where you wish to go.
Listening to the Voice Within
I talk to myself all the time. That is how I get much of my guidance, clarity, and understanding. I find myself, when in the kitchen for example, asking how many teaspoons of this, how much water, how much juice, how much of anything. Then I listen for the inner voice that says three, or none, or just a tiny bit.
On some level, we all talk to ourselves, but the real question is this: what are you saying to yourself? Is your inner conversation supportive, or is it demeaning?
When you talk to yourself, are you putting yourself down? Are you criticizing yourself? Are you calling yourself names? If so, that is the wrong kind of communication.
The most useful way to talk to yourself is by asking questions. You can ask yourself simple, everyday questions. What is the best thing for me to do right now? What is the best thing for me to eat or drink in this moment? Do I turn left or do I turn right? How much of this do I really need? Should I even be doing this at all? When we ask these questions sincerely, the answers come. They may arrive as a quiet nudge, a feeling, a word, or a sense of ease or discomfort. But the answers are there, waiting for us to listen.
Any and all of these questions will bring answers from within. The key is to be mindful that the answers do not come from the ego or the hurt inner child, but from the higher wisdom that resides in each of us.
Your Inner Recipe for Life
As many chefs know, there is no single recipe that must be followed exactly. A recipe, whether for food or for life, is meant to be tweaked by the chef. Most cooks go by their gut feeling. They add more liquid, less salt, more flavoring, or an ingredient not even mentioned in the original recipe. In doing so, they create their own unique masterpiece.
Life works the same way. Someone else’s recipe may work beautifully for them, but it probably will not work for you. Your recipe resides within you, and you are the only one who can feel whether a new ingredient is needed or whether an old one needs to be dropped.
How to Get Answers
The way to get those answers is by talking to yourself. It does not have to be out loud; it can be silent. But personally, I have found that speaking out loud works best. It does not need to be shouting. It can be subtle, almost like muttering. What matters is the communication. That connection with your inner self, your inner guidance, is essential.
That is how you find your bliss, your proper path, and ease into making decisions moment by moment that are in tune with who you truly are, not who someone else thinks you should be. The answers really are within. We have heard that phrase for years, and it is absolutely true.
Answers from the outside may help guide us by offering ideas and possibilities. Other people’s experiences can provide perspective. But to walk a path that is truly yours, the final decision, the final choice, must come from your own inner voice, your own inner guidance, your own gut feeling.
Choosing Which Inner Voice to Trust
Please start talking to yourself, at least silently. Ask yourself what is best for you in this moment. Whether you are deciding what to eat, what to drink, what to wear, where to go, or what the next major step in your life is to be, talk to yourself.
Talk to your higher self. That is the part of you that has your best interests at heart. Please do not accept guidance from the petty inner critic, the pouting inner child, or the raging inner tyrant. You can talk to these inner characters. They deserve compassion, love, and healing. Just do not take life instructions from them. They see life through hurts and anger, not through faith and love.
Just as you would not ask a two-year-old how to drive a car, it is wise not to let your inner two-year-old or your inner critic run your life. Guidance is best taken from the highest part of you, the clearest, most loving, most expansive energy within you.
A Rose by Any Other Name
The name you give your inner GPS does not matter. I like to think it stands for God’s Perfect Solution or Good’s Perfect Solution. What matters is the energy: clarity, love, trust, and faith in the future, in yourself, and in the fact that the Universe, by whatever name you choose, has your back.
Please cancel the programming that says talking to yourself makes you crazy. Judging by the state of the world, not talking to ourselves may be what has made the world so unbalanced, and yes, so chaotic. We have made decisions not from our hearts or inner guidance, but from social pressure, appearances, greed, insecurity, anger, rage, and a lack of self-worth. And it is hard to argue that this approach has worked well.
Reconnecting With Inner Truth
Just as we choose which channels to watch, which podcasts to listen to, or which feeds to follow, we also choose which inner channel we tune into. If we want happiness, love, joy, and inner peace, those solutions are found by listening to our higher wisdom.
We were done a great disservice when we were taught not to talk to ourselves. We were encouraged to disconnect from our inner guidance and our inner truth. Many children had an invisible friend growing up. Who do you think that was? Inner self, higher self, inner wisdom. A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.
Unfortunately, as children speaking to our invisible friends, we were mocked, ridiculed, and told to forget such foolishness and focus on the so-called real world. Yet that world is falling apart because it is not anchored in truth, love, or self-respect.
Scarcity itself is a fiction. Look at nature. A single tree can produce more fruit than one person could ever eat. There is more than enough to share, more than enough for everyone. Our inner guidance reminds us of this truth. It reminds us to trust, to serve, to share, and to love.
When we do not listen inwardly, we absorb distorted messages from the outside world, messages rooted in fear, separation, and disconnection from both ourselves and others.
One Choice at a Time
The good news is that all of this can change. It starts with each of us choosing to listen within once again. As with any conversation, someone has to begin. In this case, that someone is you, me, and each one of us individually.
You may have closed that door long ago. Reopening it is your choice and your responsibility. Trust yourself. Trust your inner voice. Trust the voice of love within you. Be willing to follow its guidance, even if others judge or misunderstand you. What they think is irrelevant.
What matters is whether you are connected to your inner truth and living from that place.
Our fate, and the fate of the world, rests on each of us reconnecting with our inner guidance and inner love. As we do, we dissolve the illusion of separation between the physical and the spiritual. We become who we were always meant to be.
La Solución Perfecta
When you begin living this way, decisions no longer feel like battles. You are not second-guessing yourself at every turn or looking outside yourself for permission. There is a growing sense of ease, even when choices are not simple. Life feels less like something you are fighting against and more like something you are walking with, guided step by step from within.
The way forward begins by reopening communication with your higher self. That single act will change your entire world.
Sobre el Autor
Marie T. Russell es el fundador de InnerSelf Revista (Fundada 1985). También produjo y presentó un programa semanal de radio del sur de Florida, poder interior, de 1992-1995 que se centró en temas como la autoestima, crecimiento personal y el bienestar. Sus artículos se centran en la transformación y volver a conectar con nuestra fuente interna de alegría y creatividad.
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Resumen del artículo:
Talking to yourself is not a sign of instability but a pathway to inner guidance, clarity, and self-trust. By listening inwardly instead of relying on external authority, you reconnect with your higher wisdom and begin living in alignment with your authentic self.
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